Lisa who plays the organ at her Church in St. Louis, Missouri is very shy when it comes to meeting men.

"I am not that experienced with getting close to a man," Lisa confessed to Flirting.com. "So, I would like to meet a man who understands that about me."

Be that as it may, she might be a real keeper. Dating is not about "getting some" or "getting more," it's about companionship! Be her best friend first. Even if it means taking things painstakingly slow. After all, what else do you have to do anyhow? It never hurts to have another friend to confide in. Focus on that and who knows, she might be playing your organ before you know it.

Ellen from St. George Utah likes a guy with a sense of humor. “Nothing beats a man that can make me laugh,” she said recently. “Looks aren't everything. If you are funny, that improves your attractiveness ten times in my book.”

This is not an invitation to practice your one-liners or best Nantucket jokes. You know if you have the whimsical disposition to keep this one laughing. But, don't give up if you are not prone to delivering Jay Leno-like monologues about the day’s events. After all, even the best clowns need some time to reflect. Otherwise, they are sad clowns.

Susan, a cute red-head with an intellectual gravitas, loves to cuddle up with a novel and a bottle of Pinot Noir. “I like a man that can keep me company but be quiet at the same time,” she said. “I like to know he is there for me when I need him and likewise…”

If you are serious about landing this one's number, it is high time to brush up on the classics. If you don't have time to read them all, go to your local book store and start perusing the cliff notes to many famous novels. Another good tip is to read book reviews of the hottest sellers on Amazon.com. At least this gives you some common ground.

If you really want in her pants, write a book yourself!

Terri, from Madison, Wisconsin, likes nothing more than her Pilates in the morning, before she gets ready for the day as a fashion buyer. However, at night, she longs for a little companionship. “I am looking for active man that can keep up with my busy lifestyle, yet find some time to enjoy cozy evenings together,” she told Flirting.com. “Maybe that’s asking too much in a man.”

We don’t think so. Our advice for men that felt they can keep up with such a busy woman, remember, it is not a competition. You are there to help, not to prove you can be busier than she. Show her you know how to slow it down and she will do likewise.

Eric is a plumber in Philadelphia. He claims his job naturally lends itself to wonderful flirting opportunities because many times it is the lonely housewives at home left to great the plumber. No problem by Eric’s accounts.

“I mean I am literally there to lay the pipe,” he joked with us. “But, many times, I meet a lot of people starving for attention…. I don’t see what harm can come from a little playful flirting…”

Eric takes good advantage of the built-in flirting opportunities that his trade provides. However, we advise him to proceed with a little more caution when flirting with the married ones. After all, if his flirting should spontaneously escalate and he ends up cleaning her pipes as well at the sink’s than her husband might have a major problem with him. Eric might end up paying a serious bill on that call. So it is best advised to not flirt with married women alone at home.

Emily, a Yoga instructor in Pittsburgh, is looking for “meditation partner,” one she can explore her inner self with while discussing the deeply philosophical essence of being.

“I like a man to be well grounded in existentialist philosophy,” Emily confided. “Yes, I know that is probably asking a bit too much, but I guess I like a man that thinks about what it all means.”

Hmmm. She sure got us thinking that a trip to the bookstore is in order to read up on exactly what the heck she is talking about. This goes back to being well versed in subjects that interest a particular woman. If you can start by having conversations about mutually interesting topics, such as existential philosophy, then you are halfway to being her friend. And that is essence of successfully dating.

Spike from "parts unknown" is a hard-core good-for-nothing roustabout who has spent the last 15 years in the slammer for killing a guy down South. He drives a "hog" that displays a vanity sticker that reads "If you can read this, the bitch fell off."

"I don't know what to do or where to begin," he confided to Flirting.com. "I mean you don't flirt in prison so my flirting skills are wanting."

He confessed to us that he would like to flirt with a women into body art and, oddly enough, modernist art too. He is embarrassed to say, he has no luck whatsoever finding such a rare woman.

Sorry Spike but it is not going to happen without a little hard work.

Spike needs to reinvent himself by learning more about art. If he should be so lucky to develop a softer side, perhaps he might organize a bike ride to raise money for a museum or art gallery. So, if like Spike, your flirting tanks time and again, and you have not the slightest reason why, ask yourself if you might benefit from a little reinvention. It's a great way to improve your flirting as well as your overall life.

Todd is a corporate trainer for an oil company in Houston. He enjoys flirting with women during his training classes, which he admits, usually is hard to do because most assume they are in for a four hour snooze session when they walk through the door. He elaborated his flirting method for us.

“I stand there all serious and will scan the room,” he said. “Usually, I can spot one of the ladies paying attention. If she seems open to it, I ask her stand and tell the class why she is hear today. Then, I make some kind of joke that puts everyone at ease.”

On break-time, Todd explained, he will approach that person individually and apologize for having “put them on the spot.” If all goes well, he usually gets one-on-one flirting in return.

Todd should be commended for creating his opportunities and not waiting for them to appear magically. He underscores the principle that good flirting is about proactivity. As for putting them on the spot, that is bold. But bold is good when it comes to flirting. Don’t’ forget it.

Sarah, who is a struggling artist in Manhattan, just cut it off with a man, literally. She was arrested for serration of a man's penis with a butcher's knife. Okay, she has psycho written all over her. However, she just realized she suffered from a chemical imbalance and once she gets out of the institution and gets things straightened out, you may have a real find on your hands.

In all seriousness, the point here is to remember nobody is perfect. Rarely will you find someone that has life figured out. Such a person does not exist. Don't hold potential dating partners to their past if it looks like they have effectively put trouble behind them and have been honest in telling you about it. Everyone deserves a second chance. It goes for you too.